Do you need divorce therapy or a divorce lawyer or other help?
Most parents make the wrong mistake when it comes to step number one of getting divorced. They think that the first two people they need to hire from the get-go is a lawyer and a therapist. I have to disagree that those are the ONLY two professionals that you need to go to. Why? Because you’re going to fall into a whole load of unknowns. You’re walking into an unknown territory and I can tell you from personal experience that those are not the only two professionals that you need. There are many other professionals from various different industries who can help answer your questions better than a lawyer or a therapist. And I’m not saying a lawyer and a therapist is bad, nothing against them whatsoever.
Why? They do great jobs. But it may not be what you meet. It may not be the only solutions that you should be banking on.
What happens after divorce papers are filed is that your REAL life starts
There are so many different angles and phases to divorce. So, it’s like I say: “your divorce is like a puzzle”. So, if you want to see the picture of the puzzle, you need to put all the different pieces together. Every single piece represents a different part of your life. You’ve got your children, your life as an individual, you’ve got the finances, you’ve got your role as a parent… there’s so many different components and they’re all different for each person, right? It’s not like a one size fits all.
So once you have all these different pieces, you have to connect them together and it has to make sense. That means that you may have to speak to a different specialist for every area to help you answer and find the best solution so that that piece fits all the rest. And therapists and lawyers that is not their job, that is not necessarily what they do.
But I can tell you that when I was getting divorced, I did not go to a whole bunch of coaches.
I felt stuck with the loss of what was and what you had and the grief after divorce
I did not go get a whole bunch of help. And I can tell you, I made a whole bunch of mistakes along the way, because I thought I had it all figured out. I thought I had all the answers. I thought I knew best and little did I know that I really didn’t. And this is where I made a lot of mistakes. And this is where a lot of parents make a lot of mistakes. We don’t know how to marry and we certainly don’t know how to divorce either. If we don’t know what we don’t know, it’ll take us a whole load of trial and error to figure it out, until we say, “Now I know”. So, if you don’t want to go through all those looping sagas and if you don’t want to waste years of your life and gray hairs and chaos and stress and health issues and all that, please join us at Divorce by Rose. This is the purpose of this community that we’ve created. We’ve got a whole bunch of Trusted coaches, experts, and professionals who’ve been there, done that, have experienced personal wisdom, have strategies and solutions for you to help you jump over these hoops, to help you get to your final position without having to go through all the trial and errors in between.
I can tell you that I was NOT prepared for my divorce and for this reason, it cost me extra time, money and unnecessary stress.I thought that I was getting divorce therapy when I went to get help from a Psychologist, but instead, it was the exact opposite. I didn’t need to look at my past, I needed to look at my future! My divorce journey taught me so much that until today, I wonder sometimes HOW on earth I got through it all.
In order to REDUCE the unnecessary pain and struggle from the looping sagas, you need to think BIGGER and “outside of the box” and these 3 divorce worksheets will help you tremendously by looking at how to logically plan your divorce, how to get your divorce finances and budget in order and also, the 5 Key Strategies to AVOID a nasty divorce.
